Oh, it’s lonely (on) the top . . .
Posted on January 30th, 2008 by admin
How do I have sex when I've got no rhythm? I need help on top. Unfortunately, this is not a joke. Definitely NSFW inside. I am a female who loves being on top but thoroughly sucks at it. I am relatively fit, stronger than most women. It is not an issue of stamina or supporting myself. But I lack rhythm and coordination, so I really just can't seem to get the hang of whatever angle, rhythm, and specific movements produce steady, even, quick thrusts that will enable both of us to climax.
I've tried cowgirl, reverse cowgirl, all kinds of on-top positions. I adjust angle and which way I'm leaning. And when I'm going slowly, it's OK, though still a little awkward. But as soon as I try to speed things up I either can't maintain a steady rhythm and/or end up imparting all of the "bouncing" energy into the bed rather than my boyfriend, so he's experiencing very little movement but the bed is literally slamming against the walls and floor. I wouldn't mind it if the sex going on was actually exciting enough to deserve it, but it's not.
I can't really figure out what I'm doing wrong. All the guides I've read just show positions, not what you do after you get into those positions. And I've watched porn, but frankly, the angles they use when a woman is on top aren't terribly helpful. I've asked my boyfriend how he figured out how to deliver steady thrustage, and he doesn't know, it just came naturally. Can anyone help clue me in?
I've tried cowgirl, reverse cowgirl, all kinds of on-top positions. I adjust angle and which way I'm leaning. And when I'm going slowly, it's OK, though still a little awkward. But as soon as I try to speed things up I either can't maintain a steady rhythm and/or end up imparting all of the "bouncing" energy into the bed rather than my boyfriend, so he's experiencing very little movement but the bed is literally slamming against the walls and floor. I wouldn't mind it if the sex going on was actually exciting enough to deserve it, but it's not.
I can't really figure out what I'm doing wrong. All the guides I've read just show positions, not what you do after you get into those positions. And I've watched porn, but frankly, the angles they use when a woman is on top aren't terribly helpful. I've asked my boyfriend how he figured out how to deliver steady thrustage, and he doesn't know, it just came naturally. Can anyone help clue me in?
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